Boy when things go bad you get your head on a plate

Responsorial Psalm, Psalms 18-31, 47, 50, 51“He saves his king time after time, displays his faithful love for his anointed, for David and his heirs for ever. Responsorial Psalm, Psalms 18:31, 47, 50, 51″

Oh Lord save me from these kids, this day, my hubby, my job!  Every mom knows these feelings: when nothing is going right.  Just the day before we felt like David, we felt like all that AND a bag of crisps. Then there are days when our head is on a plate and nothing we have done has been right.

That is when we realize that God displays His love for us, our family, loved ones, co-workers, community.  Something will happen during our day that will help turn things around.  Or we will get one of those “divine inklings” that we would be better off if we just change our attitude/view/idea.

We just need to keep our eyes, (spiritual and physical), open for all the ways we can change the day.

Help turning that frown upside down by living love: 

1. Do something nice for someone else. We hear this all the time, but don’t often know why it works.  Bad days can make us wallow in the why me of it all.  If we force ourselves to break out of the pattern it changes us, physically. The Happy chemistry of our brains: endorphin, oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine; God has created to help us with pain, (endorphin), gives us warm loving/mommy feelings, (oxytocin), experience the joy we feel when we are out in the sun on a beautiful day, (serotonin), and dopamine which helps us take pleasure in our lives; these all are activated when we step out of selves to do something for someone else.

2. Do something that lifts your mood. Lifting our mood has the same effect as doing something for others. With this we have stepped out of the wallowing and are deliberately putting us into a better STATE of MIND.  We are creating a new being/us.  God doesn’t want us to wallow that puts us in the realm of the negative.

3. Discern what could be at the heart of it all. Sometimes we can stand in front of our wall calendar and stare at it like deers in the highlights, then fear grips us and freeze in place.  Or we walk into the kitchen and find our lovely loved ones have “cooked” but the idea of cleaning up eludes them, again we can freeze.  So what can you do? First start by thinking about all you have to do try and put it into perspective. Identify what it is that’s concerning you, and break it down to smaller, manageable goals/tasks.  Is God asking you to understand if you take on more than you can do? Do you have to do it all, after all you didn’t make a huge mess in the kitchen? This step speaks to how you feel you are being perceived by others.  Is God calling you to look at how well you respect yourself.  When you feel walked upon, you feel disrespect. Can you visualise how good you’ll feel when you’ve got through it? By reducing the problem, you contain it, and it needn’t ruin the rest of your day.  What this really means is God wants us to take control of what we can in our lives.

Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 - 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director

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