Josh Duggar

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Josh’s parents, Jim Bob, 49, and Michelle, 48, also issued a joint statement, saying they hope that people who watch them on TV realize that ‘we are not a perfect family.’ USA Today

Yes, Michelle, you are right, NO family is perfect.  I sympathize with you. In our own family, we have had our own traumas.  And if you ask me, I will tell you.  It is no secret.  I  know that to discuss such things can be very painful. Michelle, I do not know you, but from my own experience and from working with moms in crisis, it is natural for you to feel great shame, guilt, and self-criticism.  Michelle, I hope you know you are not alone.  To tell your story is a way to help you heal.  No one is asking for gory details but to hear from you could be a blessing.

This is your opportunity, in your very public forum, to have a frank and true discussion of how this affected your faith, changed your parenting, and how you journeyed with God and became a stronger wife, mother, priest of your home, prophet to your children and queen protecting your resources: your children. What you experienced and how you dealt with it will help so many other moms.

I feel for you, Michelle.  I pray for you, Michelle.  I know that when we experienced our trauma I felt as if the world had opened up and was trying to swallow my hubby and I whole.  We did what needed to do to become stronger as a family.  We did what we needed to do to not let the darkness come into our souls, and we did not hide; to hide is to allow the darkness to overcome you. It creates situations you do not want.

We all know families who are experiencing traumas.  Good families.  Faith-filled families.  What is happening to the Duggars, to any family, is not God’s punishment.  That flies in the face of a God of deep love.  What this can be is a time of great discernment. It can be a time of great learning.  It can be a time of great support.  It is the time to allow the truth to set you free.

Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 - 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director

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