Old men will dream, young men will have visions, or Moms will have confusing dreams that might mean something

Dreams are ways we try and make sense of the life around us.  They can be a source of discernment and often many Catholic/Christians will use dreams, when they have them, as a way to try and understand God’s call through interpreting their dreams.

Often our dreams seem to be a confusing jumble of images.  Still there is a way to use those images to determine what is going on.

I will use two dreams.  One of my own and one of a fellow mom.

My Dream:

We, but I can’t determine who we are, are in a white place.  Is it a room, or home? Can not tell, the setting keeps shifting from a setting that is “familiar” to one unfamiliar.  I am feeling apprehensive.  The girls, although you are not able to see them, are busy doing something.  It seems like packing, but you never see anything being put into “suitcases”.  The girls come in to tell me that they are going to Japan.  They want my husband to go, or my husband is going.  It is difficult to tell.  It is made known somehow that the girls can not have their dad go.  At first they will not go, but then become excited at the thought of going.  We leave for somewhere; it can not be determined where that somewhere is. Though the girls are never seen, I sense them, and they vacillate between little “girls” to being a college age, young women.   

Upon waking try and write down as much of the dream as you can remember.  Then try and answer these questions:

  • What is the setting of the dream: Where is it taking place
  • What is happening: busy work, fighting off something, what are you doing
  • Who are you dealing with: Boss, neighbour, children, persons known and unknown
  • What colours were in the dream
  • How did the dream make you feel upon waking
  • How were you feeling during the dream
  • Other characters:
    • Who are they
    • What are they
    • How do they feel in the dream
    • How do they make you feel in the dream, upon waking
    • What are they doing with you, with each other, with anyone else? 
  • How do they make you feel in the dream, upon waking?  
  • What is your over all conclusion about the dream
    • Was it a message about the future, past, present
    • Is there a situation, difficulty you are dealing with that is represented by the dream
    • Does the dream give you peace: how and why
    • Does the dream make you upset: how and why
    • After prayerful contemplation what do you believe God is saying to you, asking of you, calling you to do

In my dream, I can’t determine the setting.  After praying over this, I come to the conclusion that this means that we are not home. The setting does not feel like home.  In the dream, it did not feel like being anywhere.  And upon waking that makes me feel upset.  While in the dream I am calm. I usually have no emotional or spiritual attachment to colour.  For me colour does not convey an emotion or spiritual message, for some it may have.  Because the white was so prominent, I have prayerfully considered that it represents confusion and fear.  In the dream, these emotions are mostly our daughters, but upon waking I am feeling those same emotions about their leaving home.  Even though my husband is mentioned in the dream he is never seen, “felt”.  He is there but not.  Upon waking I realize that I have not been relying on my husband for support during this transition stage of our lives.  I feel a calling from God to begin to incorporate my husband back into my life.  It is clear that from the dream that the girls are an important part of my life, and I want them to experience new things.  And their father is an important support in theirs.  The dream is very reminiscent of the trip to Spain the girls and my husband told their Junior year of high school.  The girls were scared to go by themselves and my husband thought it would be best for him to go.  In the dream, the attitude was the same, but very different. The girls should be going out on their own.

My Mom Friend’s dream:

Had a morbid dream in that Harrison, (her son about age two), died. Woke up with the awful emotions attached to such an occurrence. However, the manner of death was so improbable I just have to question my subconscious and where it came up with the idea. The dream involved a team of speed boat raccoons (think concept of sled dogs) and mama raccoon being overly protective of one of her young in particular. It was dumb.

My thoughts:

Now while the dream may have been dumb, at waking, it was significant.  First off, we need to let everyone know that my Mom Friend is going to be a mommy for the second time so what is this dream telling her, showing, asking of her?

Friend Mom, your first emotions in the dream were awful.  It is important you that you pray over this.  What are those awful emotions. How do they related to your situations, worries, thought, calling?

The theme of death.  Your son’s death as the first and only little baby.  He is growing up.  His place will be usurped by this new baby.  How does that make you feel?  How are you thinking it will make your son fell?  How are you being called to handle that?

Prayerfully ask yourself who are these race boating racoons.  What do racoons mean?  Do you see them as thieves: the masked faces?  If so, thieves of what?

The racoon mommy is overprotective of the one baby: why?  Does this portion of the dream resonate emotionally/spiritually with you?

Dreams may seem dumb, or slightly upsetting, but they have purpose.  God reveals His plans and purposes through our dreams and visions.  He shows us things ahead of time because God wants to give us a clear vision to see beyond our present state.   He also creates dreams so we can see and hear the answers to our prayers.  Dreams are a vehicle for bringing a peaceful resolve to the problem areas of life.  ~Barbie Breathitt of Myonar

So, next time that weird dream pops into your head, grab your prayer/dream journal and have a conversation with God about it and see what comes up.  And if you are having trouble, drop me an email, or give me a call.



Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 - 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director

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