Occasion of sin, or I know why people give up Facebook and Twitter for Lent

I know why people give up Twitter and Facebook for Lent


Twitter, (and Facebook),can be great fun, but we haveto be very careful what we share and with whom we share it.  It is far too easy to get into these little Twitter wars.  People have very strong opinions and they can easily be misunderstood, or your responsecan be perceived as damaging to their issue and you both start hurling Tweets that are hurtful, insulting and bullying – that is where the sin comes in.

I have found I have several Twitter triggers:

One, those who have some grudge and use Twitter, (and Facebook) to voice it.  

Those are the Tweets that get me in the most trouble.  I get caught up in “trying to help”, but what I am really doing is trying to force someone to see things my way.  It is something that brings me back to highschool when I was always putting my nose into other people’s business, and not letting them do what was right for them.  It is a dangerous thing and it leaks into all my relationships.  I want to come in and say: “Do this because I said so.” Wanting to be superior is not loving nor is it Christ like. So, I am on my knees about that.

Two, those Tweeters who are a little “out there”

This one shames me terribly.  Again I am driven back to high-school when as one of the popular girls I loved bullying the ones who seemed just a little “out there”.  I thought it was fun to do so.  It wasn’t.  It was petty and mean.  So, when I am on Twitter, (Facebook), and find myself in the middle of posts that are suddenly getting a little weird, I turn into mean girl and start bullying.  Now my bullying is never outright but its definitely there. I have to stop tweeting/facebooking them, and immediately pray about why do I have to be so mean.  What is driving me to want to tear someone down for “fun?”.

Three, those Tweeters who believe they are all that and a bag of crisps.

They get my goat and I want to knock them down several pegs.  But is that my job to go around with a virtual axe and try and take them out at the knees.  No.  But I want to, I really, really want to. So, when I feel that bile raising I have to get off and calm down; it’s not my fight and maybe it never is going to be.

These three occasion for sin are God is calling me to discern.  It is the HUGE spiritual questions of how my actions towards them, my thoughts about them and my reaction to them can and do great damage to people who don’t’ deserve it.  I will face people like these in my life and I must learn how to treat them as Christ did/does and always will.  It’s not easy.  It is not my job to be God, He never asked me to take over, but I want to, I really, really, really want to. I could say its from the example of my mom and others in my life, but come on, that is a childish deflection!

Sure we all have learned bad habits from people we love, but there comes a time when all that stops and you got to look yourself in the mirror and have that Come To Jesus Chat with that reflection staring back at you.  God in His infinite wisdom isn’t going to condemn us, no, I think we do a fine job of that ourselves.  No, God is there when the conscience starts to pick and you realize what you are doing.  That is when God starts asking you/me the hard questions.  The questions that are meant to dig deep and release whatever spiritual garbage that is down deep in our soul so we can release and get on with the job of loving.

Pray for me and I will pray for you.

 

Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 – 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director

2 Comments

  1. I have been pulled into Twitter discussions on religion that dragged out for HOURS. When they’re respectful, I’ve actually found them to be encouraging in my faith and I’m building understanding of other beliefs. But sometimes I find myself deleting more than I post because my need to be right or get the last word in gets the better of me. I’m learning that like any real like discussion, knowing when to shut up and/or walk away is a beautiful thing.

  2. Amen, my sister a good lesson for all of us, thank you for sharing

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