Great techniques for every marriage: newly-wedded and beyond

Mommy Mantra August 7, 2014: The days are coming, says the LORD, when I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and the house of Judah.  It will not be like the covenant I made with their fathers….Jeremiah Chapter 31: 32

A very good friend of mine, Susan Netter, someone I have known since my Director of Project Rachel days, let us know that her newly married daughter and her husband are going to be first time parents. I excitedly said to her that she was approaching a new stage of mommying.

Susan, her husband Paul, are going to be entering into a “new covenant” with their married daughter and her husband.  Susan and Paul will not be the parents, the old covenant with their daughter, and this baby represents a new covenant.  Annie will be entering motherhood when, we as moms, live out a more Sacrificial Prayer/Life; where we live a life that is less focused on ourselves, more on our infants and family, this is the new covenant that the baby represents.  But it is also a new covenant for Annie’s husband.  For now his role is to provide but also nurture and care for his wife, helping her find balance just as she should do the same for him. Together this baby bonds them, but the stress of life, the busyness of being parents can wear away the fabric of marriage but only if the new covenant is broken.

  • Don’t Coast:  When we coast it makes it too easy for us to treat each other as furniture.
  • Have a Weekday Update: Spend time to reconnect. Share three positive things about life. Share goals, individual, couple and family
  • Pay a Bit Less Attention to Your Kids: Our children will not writhe away if we spend time with our spouse.
  • Make Time to Be Alone: Spend time alone to mediate, do a hobby, read, something specific for ourselves
  • Be a Cheap Date:  Be creative, a picnic in the living room, walk in the park, do something fun
  • Look for Little Ways to Be Nice:  Always look for ways to care for each other.  Speak positively.  Give each other time to refresh before bombarding each other with the troubles of the day.
  • Go Out on a Limb: Children thrive on routine, but a marriage needs some spontaneity.

These are also great things to do at EVERY stage of marriage to keep that covenant strong.

Let’s pray for all those expectant moms, new moms, teen moms, single moms, all moms and Mr. Moms

Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 - 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director

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