All things have their season, and in their times all things pass under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1
I work with moms who are desperate to find time for God, who feel they are no doing enough for God, that want to have children who will be good Catholics. The one thing that each of these moms have in common: They are pushing themselves too hard. Today many moms work to help support the family, are single parents trying their best to be both mom and dad, are part of the sandwich generation with young children and elderly parents they are caring for simultaneously. Than there are moms who are at critical stages of the motherhood spectrum: Newborns, so they have no sleep, toddler, so mom is run ragged at the end of the day, school-aged with mom caught between a bake-sale and a room mother, tweens/teens and all the drama that comes with that. These are moms who can hardly find time for a shower and yet they beat themselves up because they can’t pray the way they used to!
I joined a Facebook group called Catholic Mom Cafe. I have mentioned it before, it is a lovely group of Catholic moms all trying to support each other, pray for and with each other and just be there for each other. One mom wrote, in part:
“I was under the silly impression that once school started I would be less busy and there would be less demands on my time. Not sure what planet I was living on as those thoughts crossed my mind.
I have done nothing but feel like I’m playing catch up since the end of Aug/early Sept. This has been making me crazy(er) as time management has been a big part of my cognitive therapy.
So this past Sunday, the priest was talking directly to me (once again) during the homily. He was asking us what and who do we worship? How much actual time do we spend with the Lord each day/week/month/year? How can we expect prayers to be answered if we don’t take the time to pray? What is so important that we have to rush, rush, rush and lose precious moments with God and our families.”
These are all great questions and they will help discern how we believe our family should be, pray, and do for others.
To make those question work requires us to discern what is important in our lives. Making a family mission/vision statement would be an excellent way to bring all aspects of our lives together. But let’s take baby steps appropriate to our motherhood stage. For moms with infants it is almost impossible to spend as much time in prayer as we may hope. Taking a nap may be the best for us at the moment, so saying the rosary until we go to sleep is a wonderful way to pray.
School age children, the drama of tweens/teens can make spiritual living a little different. Being a good example of how you want your children to be is the best way of helping them get there. Remember the footprint prayer?