A Wise Catholic Middle School Nun Used to Say…..

1016098_10151689241054696_1274028623_nMommy Mantra for June 26, 2013: Every good tree bears good fruit. (Matthew 7:17)

A friend of mine had this on her wall this morning and I liked it, in the FB sense of the word and the “real” sense of the word. There isn’t a one of us that can’t relate to this picture. There isn’t a one of us sitting in front of our screens who isn’t nodding our heads in agreement.

Years ago a wise nun, who taught middle school, used to tell us on almost a daily basis that we should not try to pull yesterday into today…it won’t fit! She said that because she knew that many of us in her class were thinking about the failed grade or the fact that we couldn’t get this concept or that one into our heads, and were more than likely calling ourselves dumb, or stupid; when we should be just letting it go, when we should be saying: “OK wasn’t my best effect how can I do better.”

Now in the Gospel this morning Jesus is warning his disciples against false prophets, but I convinced that we often listen to the greatest false prophet of them all: our own negative self talk! It’s been something I have been in prayer over for a while now and just now am getting a handle on the thing: Don’t listen to it! So easy to say, so hard to do; which is why its taken me so long to get a handle on it.

Mostly we listen to our false prophet because, I believe, we don’t always trust God; either that he truly has given us the tools we need or that He is there no matter what; so negative self talk comes in. Or it’s habit because that is what we heard our parents, or teachers, or whomever call us, or impart to us their negative belief of who we were; it’s an old tape/CD/MP3 that keeps playing on loop. Negative self-talk can be a product of pessimism, but it can truly be something we are given, the old tell me that enough I will believe it kinda thing. So how to stop it?

Literally stop when hearing it begin. We should stop when we have a situation that causes us to begin those tapes/CD/MP3; the old: “OMG she/he/they did it again”, and then our thoughts go into overdrive bringing all the yesterdays into to today.

When we feel those false prophet thoughts, pray about it! Have God show us the wisdom of those truths and the TRUE wisdom of how he sees us. Before we open our mouths and let those false thoughts out, whether in anger or fear, stop and pray for better words, time to think, don’t let the false prophets run the train of our thoughts.

Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 – 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director

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