Look into these eyes…these girls are beginning their graduation process. You look into these eyes, see these smiling faces and they do not betray the inner life of these young women, what they are truly feeling, what they are truly believing about themselves, the world, God.
Jesus said to his disciples: “Amen, amen, I say to you, you will weep and mourn, while the world rejoices; you will grieve, but your grief will become joy. JN 16: 20
During the homily given at the Senior Appreciation Mass the high school Chaplain spoke of how our woundedness is really an opportunity for us to be God’s hands in this world. It is often through our pain that we can begin to have a sense of what God is calling us to do.
As parents we try our best to be all that God calls us to be, but still through worry or troubles we allow the world to sneak into our homes and we can give to our children those things that burden them…that cause them to take on what we should have taken on. Our children can misunderstand our intentions, our meanings; they take on more than should because they are too young to know the difference. We parents can become overly guilty but it doesn’t help us or them.
So it comes to us to help our children see themselves as they truly are. That may mean getting them help. It means for us to look at their woundedness and know that we have some responsibility for that, which means we must discern how God is calling US to change, for as we change our world changes, our relationships change.
It is by no means a condemnation from God when we discern our part in anything we do. God in his great love for us gives us the tools we need to change our lives. It is not the easiest thing to do, it takes time, but in the end it will free all of us, giving us new life, making us new. This process is also what we must do to help our children to grow and overcome difficulties. Now as young adults they need us more than ever to guide and comfort them, to teach and remind them, to be strong advocates for them when they are voiceless, powerless. We must do together the work God is calling us to do, so that we can help our children be successful; for as God promises our weeping will become joy.
It always means that we love them.