Yes I called a fellow Facebook mom a coward!!!!

148160_458708454185716_651031459_nKaren Meshelle Horn I would gladly do that!!! Its called respect and if they cant show it do what ya gotta do to get it!!!! to many kids now a days dont know what respect is!!!
Karen, this is the real reason why we our children don’t know what respect is!

There is a HECK of a lot of stuff/issues in this home and it NOT just that this young lady is being disrespectful and sneaking boys into her house.

No parenting is not easy, it takes a lot of hard work and it takes a true understanding of children.

We have to look at our parenting as having a specific purpose: What do we wish our children to emulate from their experience with us, how do we want our children to treat others, what are we teaching our children about compassion, honour and respect.  From what I see in this picture these parents greatest lesson is we are not here to raise you with any sense of love, discipline and respect; you are ours to treat anyway we want, you have nothing you can teach us about how to be as God called us to be, you are just a little sh*t who doesn’t deserve the best we have to offer.
Looking closely at this picture dad looks fully enraged while mom looks passive and disengaged and this poor girl says it all by hiding her face; it is not out of shame she is will run by the time she is 16, she will be doing drugs, and why?  Dr. Tim Kimmel in his book Grace Based Parenting might describe these parents as Highly Controlling.  With this type of parent they are not helping their children gain self-control but put such a price on controlling that their children react in being out of control.  These parents let situations become the parent, meaning that the child does something against their principles but because the parents have not installed principles they now react to the situation negatively demanding change of the child, not looking at what needs to be changed in the family, themselves and the child to create the life God as called them all to have. pg. 14

These parents use a mixture of toxic anger, (see picture above), toxic fear, (they hope this little “trick” will put so much fear in this girl she will never do it again.  As a past social worker I have seen this type of thing done before and the kids just get better at sneaking and lying), toxic shame, (which this daughter will turn into acts of rebellion against her parents).

Here is my Facebook interaction:

  • Patricia Perkowski sure if you want to have your child never trust you again
  • Karen Meshelle Horn I would gladly do that!!! Its called respect and if they cant show it do what ya gotta do to get it!!!! to many kids now a days dont know what respect is!!!
  • Chelly Felton Strickland I would definitely do that..I agree with u Karen.

  • Mommy time i wouldn’t be worried about my child trusting me… i’d be worried about trusting y child. I’d deffinatly sleep better after she went through this! lol
  • Patricia Perkowski Karen Meshelle Horn you have to teach respect and this is just showing the child that mom and dad have not respect for anyone just cruelty….
  • Jasmine Marie Niederkruger I didnt.do.it lol
  • Patricia Perkowski Mommy Time trust which is a major component to respect isn’t even in your parenting language! If your child can not trust you to care for them, to defend them, to TEACH them how to be, than you are a coward and a failure
  • Karen Meshelle Horn I don’t see it as cruelty! But I was raised that ever is intiled to there on opinions!

 

Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 – 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director

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