Why I hate this picture

It is a mantra that every mother chants, I even chant it; but its not right. Happiness is a fleeting thing like a teenage crush, so why wish it on our children?

What we really want for our children is for them to have the tools that will create happiness.

Encourage a Healthy mind:

Helping our children to see the positive in everything is a tool that will help them overcome fear, and worry.  By helping our children see that every situation even the worst has good in it; that will make it easier for our children to seek solutions instead of hiding from problems.  Have mistakes be a time of learning, not an opportunity to scold.  Boost your children’s self knowledge by having them see themselves clearly; when they say something like I am stupid, ask what they mean by the word stupid and see if you can help your children reframe it to reflect what is really going on.

Healthy body:

The better we eat, the more we move the better we are.  Endorphins lift our mood: try playing ball, or dancing when things look stressed.

Feeling good about yourself

True happiness is not external, it is internal.  We can often fall into the trap of “praising” our children for who they are instead of acknowledging their accomplishments.

Facing problems honestly

Accidents happen and it is how we react to them that will help our children learn to navigate life and be happy.  If children feel judged, constantly corrected they will be too timid to try, but if we see mistakes as ways to learn our children will not be afraid to do anything

Being satisfied and appreciate what you have

If we give into every whim our children will never to happy because there will always be something better they don’t have.

Focus on others and have good friends

Kindness is something that will bring real happiness because it connects us to others.

Enjoying life

Remember lying on the grass when you were a kid and looking at the clouds how much fun that was, doing that with your children will give you a change to  be together, share and create memories and that is what true happiness is all about.

Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 - 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director

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