Sometimes the prize ain’t what you think it is

The Sacrament leaves Blackfriars church

The Sacrament leaves Blackfriars church (Photo credit: Lawrence OP)

I received this comment from a LinkedIn colleague:

I think it’s really sad that some denominations do not recognised the important work that people do. To exclude half of society based on their sex just seems wrong to me, but that is simply my opinion.

I do hope you find some comfort in your spiritual directorship, certainly it is one of the most rewarding areas to work in and is in very many ways close to a personal ministry role. The one on one advice offered in SD is often life changing and an opportunity for us to become an instrument of God to greatly effect and even sometime save lives.

I personally value every member in my Church regardless of sex, race, or even religious thought. It upsets me when something as basic as sex is used to segregate people. When we meet our maker we will not be judged on what we are, but who we are. I have an unrealistic expectation that this should also be represented in religious institutions.

I can only apologise for not taking the time to respond more completely. In agreeance with you, but against current doctrine within the Catholic Church.

Yours in Faith


Now Peter and I were having a conversation about my post:  When I was younger I would play priest.  I think it is very important that people understand where I am, what has shaped my faith views, and where I think I will be.  Certainly for years I was angry at the Church for excluding me, and many other faith-filled women, but I have come to know that I am not trying to have a relationship with the Church; but a relationship with Jesus Christ.

The Church, for all that it is, is just human.  Jesus is where it is!  I love my Church, will always pray that one day women will be able to service more profoundly, but until that day I must see how my desire to be priest, my role as wife and mother will create the type of spiritual atmosphere that I am called to create!

Sometimes the prize ain’t what you think it is, and that is where I am now: realizing that the desire of my youth is a foundation for the life I am called to achieve!

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Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 - 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director


  1. Great post Patty.

    Here’s hoping that the Catholic Church will undergo sufficient growth to enable you to one day follow that childhood dream to its completion. Equality between the sexes is not something we just need to see in the workplace, but in everything.

    Discrimination occurs in all walks of life and should be opposed by everyone with the ability to do so. Hopefully strong people such as yourself will eventually drive the change we need to see in the world to enable greater peace everywhere.

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