Love is many things, but human love is always conditional


Kindness (Photo credit: -RejiK)

On Facebook I will often see posts on Unconditional Love as an example from Mia Goldsmith with her posting shows: Unconditional love is loving another without conditions.

My response was: We all have conditions to our love: respect me, honour me as a person, treat me with dignity! Don’t abuse me, don’t cheat on me, don’t diminish me!

Think about what I have said and see if it isn’t true.  How many times have we told ourselves that we must have unconditional love because that is what God calls us to have.  God’s love is prefect!  Our love is not, it is impossible for US to be prefect!  We MUST have conditions without them we will leave ourselves open to be abused, mistreated, disrespected!

Look at 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Kindness, not envying, not being boastful, proud; these are conditions!  How we know that love is true and real is that the person we love will never, (again a condition), dishonour us, be self-centered, self-interested, not throw our wrongs back in our face.  When we  are in love we wish only what is good and right for our loves.  We want only those things that makes our loved one feel hope.  These are all conditions.  Finally love always protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres; these are actions/conditions that safeguards love.  What are your thoughts on unconditional love?  Can you have truly God like unconditional love?

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Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 - 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director


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