Sorrow Upon Sorrow

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I was doing my daily read of interesting and important news articles, sites etc, when I came across this: Heather Walker, Memphis Mother, Temporarily Banned From Uploading Facebook Photos After Posting Images Of Terminally Ill Son.  Like any other new mom Heather wanted to share her photos of her new son: Grayson who was born with  anencephaly, a rare birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull.

We all know the rush of emotion that come to us when our baby is born; it feels like Christmas morning!  For Heather the joy of having her son was also the pain of knowing he had such a short time to live.  This does not make his life any less special, or meaningful, or joyous.  Maybe it makes his life EVEN MORE special!  Put yourself in the Walker’s shoes, they must cram a lifetime of love and experiences into those eight short hours that Grayson lived!

He was a loved addition to the Family Heather and Patrick were creating.  Like many parents they took on the role of parent knowing there would be good and bad, but to loose a child after only eight hours is enough to tear the heart right out of your breast!

Like any new mom Heather wanted to share her pictures of her precious little boy and like millions world wide she turned to her Facebook account to do that!  That is why Facebook was created to share, if you so choose, with the world every aspect of your life, and this was one aspect of Heather and Patrick’s life!  Someone at Facebook must be uncomfortable with those messy and tragic aspects of life because Heather was banned from Facebook for 24 hours, like a child who did something wrong, she was being put in the corner for her behaviour and told to take the time to think about what she did!

Heather’s pictures of her littlest love, her sweet boy were tasteful.  They were not posted for shock value.  They were not violent.  There was no nudity, or pornographic images.  There was not hate speech, or insulting language.  Just pictures of a sweet little boy and mourning, joyous parents.  Facebook did remove the ban, but it was after pressure from the public!  Facebook take care when you use your policies, this feels very much as if someone in charge was feeling a little “icky” at the thought of a child with a terminal illness.

Facebook sometimes life is messy, its sad, even painful, but it is also beautiful and uplifting even in our sorrow.  Heather and Patrick, and all moms and dads who have terminal ill children, need our support, words of comfort and encouragement; not to be treated like naughty little children.

My hope is that we can go to Our Sweet Boy Grayson and let her know that she has support!

Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 – 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director

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