Sometimes God leaves a Gift Wrapped Elephant

Are You Mom Enough has certainly struck a chord with many.  It certainly has with me.  The question that it truly speaks to is how are moms treated/looked at/responded to by society.  What is our role to bring the Kingdom to Earth, be part of Christ’s ministry.

On Tweeter LaMonique Hamilton, @ninilovesPIE, her blog Sweetie Pie and I have been talking about how moms are being treated, thought of and feel about motherhood.  She said: “Moms are getting hit on all sides right now. I’m so tired of seeing Mommy Extremes. Most moms are right in the middle, just trying to balance God, family and self. Being Mom in the Middle is not for the faint of heart. You have to be mentally and spiritually strong to succeed at motherhood.”

There was a blog post written by Lady Romp who wrote on the Today Show interview of Robi Ludwig, a psychotherapist on how working moms has less depression than stay-at-home moms.  Her conclusion was that working moms have a reason to get up in the morning, they have a job.

Then the an article written by Kara Baskin, who writes the series The 24 Hour Workday: Mixing Motherhood and Career with a bit of Spice in the Boston Globe.  Her latest article referred to the controversial Time Magazine article  Are You Mom Enough.  She writes: “It made me, along with the rest of the Internet, explode with righteous indignation. Mom enough? How dare they! This isn’t a contest! But, wait … what if it is? And I don’t even own skinny jeans!”  Her article, instead of carrying on the controversy, begins to ask the question of what is her calling as mom, what is she giving her children and therefore the world.  This speaks directly to the Gospel today.  I responded to her article with this email: I agree, motherhood is too important to be boiled down to Mommy Wars, so why is it that the media wants to throw oil on the fire? We have countless articles about how working moms are better off than stay-at-home moms. We have Time magazine making mothers the last women to sexualized. There are the classic sit-com portrayals of moms as either dim-wittedly naïve, or harpies. As a spiritual director I work with moms all the time who struggle with what they are being called to do, how they are viewed by society and also how they can raise strong confident children.

As moms we should really support each other WM/SAHM what is the difference, we all have the same calling raise confident, emotionally, spiritually strong kids!

Maybe it times to support moms instead of complaining about Mommy Wars, maybe its time for a Mommy Manifesto?!

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Is a spiritual director working helping moms find God in the everyday. She has been a spiritual director since 1998: worked as a Director of Religious Education for Holy Cross Parish(2000-2005), was Director of Project Rachel, a healing ministry for Post Abortive women(1999-2000). Patty worked a social worker for Catholic Social Services (1988 - 1995) Then studied for spiritual direction at the Dominican Center of Religious Studies, DeWitt Michigan

She is married 20 years and has four children

She has a BS/BA in social work from Aquinas College, CSD Certified Spiritual Director


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