Dr. William Brown, PhD– Washington DC
Patty Wilson Perkowski is a warm and caring individual who brings a depth of faith to her professional life that allows her to work with people wherever they are at the moment. Her personal and work experiences have positioned her well to serve with great empathy and understanding to those who come to share their lives.”

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Spiritual Directors does not cure, coerce or judge, but helps you to work toward wholeness.

Spiritual Direction can and does address spiritual-emotional issues.

  • In reconciling decisions, losses, doubts
    •  Exploring life situations
    •  Prioritizing life callings
    •  Life concerns
    • Creating connections with the Divine and others

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The Issues stemming from Post Abortive Syndrome: 1

  • Guilt
  • Anxiety (i.e., anxiety attacks).
  • Avoiding Children or Pregnant Women
  • Feeling “Numb”
  • Depression.
  • Thoughts of Suicide
  • Anniversary Reminders – the aborted child’s due date, or the date of the abortion.
  • Experiencing The Abortion Again
  • Wanting To Get Pregnant Again
  • Fear of Infertility
  • Unable to Bond with Present or Future Children
  • Fear that Future Children Will Die
  • Eating disorders.
  • Alcohol and Drug Use

Issues stemming from mothering can sometimes be.

  • Depression
  • Isolation
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Feelings of parenting inadequacy

Issues stemming from abusive relationships: 2

  • Using economic power to control you
  • Threatening to leave
  • Making you afraid by using looks, gestures or actions
  • Smashing things
  • Controlling you through minimizing, denying and blaming
  • Making light of the abuse and not taking your concerns about it seriously
  • Continually criticizing you, calling you names, shouting at you
  • Emotionally degrading you in private, but acting charming in public
  • Humiliating you in private or public

10433155_747540725269143_1329049349156176745_nResults of verbal and emotional abuse, from the Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness: Withholding approval, appreciation or affection as punishment

  • A distrust of her spontaneity
  • A loss of enthusiasm
  • An uncertainty about how she is coming across
  • A concern that something is wrong with her
  • An inclination to reviewing incidents with the hopes of determining what went wrong
  • A loss of self-confidence
  • A growing self-doubt
  • An internalized critical voice
  • A concern that she isn’t happier and ought to be
  • An anxiety or fear of being crazy
  • A sense that time is passing and she’s missing something
  • A desire not to be the way she is, e.g. “too sensitive,” etc.
  • A hesitancy to accept her perceptions
  • A reluctance to come to conclusions
  • A tendency to live in the future, e.g. “Everything will be great when/after …”
  • A desire to escape or run away
  • A distrust of future relationships

Issues of child sexual abuse: 3

  • Changes in behavior: withdrawal, fearfulness, crying without provocation
  • Night sweats with screaming or shaking, and nightmares
  • Regression to more infantile behavior: bedwetting, thumb sucking
  • Loss of appetite or other eating problems
  • Poorly explained injuries: bruises, rashes, cuts, genital pain or bleeding
  • Sudden reluctance to be alone with a certain person
  • Unusual interest in or knowledge of sexually related matters; inappropriate expression of affection

Issues of adult sexual abuse:

  • Emotional reactions: Emotions such as fear, shame, humiliation, guilt, and self-blame are common and lead to depression and anxiety.
  • Symptoms of posttraumatic stress
  • Survivors may experience intrusive or recurring thoughts of the abuse as well as nightmares or flashbacks.
  • Distorted self-perception
  • Survivors often develop a belief that they caused the sexual abuse and that they deserved it.
  • Chronic and diffuse pain, especially abdominal or pelvic pain
  • Lower pain threshold
  • Self-neglect
  • Eating disorders have been attributed to childhood sexual abuse.
  • Adults abused as children are four to five times more likely to have abused alcohol and illicit drugs
  • They are also twice as likely to smoke, be physically inactive, and be severely obeseresult in self-destructive relationships.

I also have specific training as a member of the Theophostic Prayer Ministry. Theophostic Prayer Ministry (TPM) is not counseling, but rather prayer ministry. A Theophostic Prayer Ministry facilitator should never lead, guide or direct the session in any manner. Theophostic Prayer Ministry is focused on identifying the lie-based core belief that we harbor and seeking the Lord in prayer to receive his counsel through the presence of the Holy spirit. Theophostic Prayer is a ministry of prayer.

Symptoms of Soul Loss/spiritual Depreession: 6

  • Feelings of being fragmented, of not being all here.
  • Blocked memory–an inability to remember parts of one’s life.
  • An inability to feel love or receive love from another.
  • Emotional remoteness.
  • A sudden onset of apathy or listlessness.
  • A lack of initiative or enthusiasm.
  • A lack of joy.
  • A failure to thrive.
  • An inability to make decisions.
  • An inability to discriminate.
  • Chronic negativity.
  • Addictions.
  • Suicidal tendencies.
  • Melancholy or despair.
  • Chronic depression.

Many moms going to a Spiritual Director will also go to a therapist, pastoral counselor; and both helps them to find balance between the mind and the heart/soul.  Spiritual Direction is always about helping moms to achieve the life God wants to help us create, and for us to see those God moments in our lives both good and bad.  Spiritual Direction helps moms learn more about their spiritual self and how knowing themselves better empowers relationships, family, and calling397459_191907174296663_142689242_n


1 Dr. Paul and Teri Reisser in their book, Help for the Post-Abortive Woman (now entitled A Solitary Sorrow)

2 Dr. Phil Abusive Relationships: Are You in an Abusive Relationship

3 Dr. Phil Child Sexual Abuse Warning Signs and Resources

4 Nicole P. Yuan, Mary P. Koss, and Mirto Stone National Resource Center on Domestic Violence The Psychological Consequences of Sexual Trauma

5 Adult manifestations of childhood sexual abuse. Committee Opinion No. 498. American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. Obstet Gynecol 2011;118:392-5. (2011)

6 Hank Wesselman PhD Three Causes of Spiritual Illness

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